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The right to life – I have it.

The Way It Was | Mother Jones.

This article has made me angry. So angry, i am going to open very far too fresh wounds.

I don’t miscarry. Five times, the fetus died. Five times, this longed for child died before twenty weeks. Some early, two, very very late.

Once I gave birth to a little girl I grieved over, too tiny and perfect for life.

The rest of the time, I had a D&C. The fetus, long dead, had to be removed, as my body was not letting go, as my heart was not. It was killing me. I could have died of septicaemia.

With the law changes in the US, I WOULD have died. My subsequent miracles, my youngest children, never born. My equally cherished older children motherless too soon.

The pious arrogance of the anti abortionists. If they are all so pro life, why are they so willing to sacrifice mine? And my youngest two children, who would not have even had a chance to live? 

And all the women who must make the terrible, awful choice, whether the fetus is viable or not, to end a pregnancy. What cruelty is there in choosing for them. Choosing a way of vast expense and pain. Of almost certain death at the hand of backyard butchers. For these desperate women, often trapped in violence and poverty, frequently trying to protect other already born children, unable to access affordable contraception with the obscene lottery of health insurance (unless for the gift of Planned Parenthood, who do far more to prevent unwanted pregnancies than to end them), or perhaps young, vulnerable and scared, with parents who would not understand, or who would rage and throw them out, or with the consequence of death and revilement from their community, hard lined with religious intolerance, mocking the very words of their religious ethos – how dare ANYONE condemn women to this? Their children left motherless, often already fatherless, consigned to foster homes that may scar them in too many ways. The women dead or broken, from one awful episode left unable then to ever have that child they may have wished more than anything they could have had, who perhaps died, or meant the death of them? Or that they could have had if older, supported, or not abused?

People like these so called right to lifers make me sick with their sanctimonious hypocrisy. They seek only to preserve the narrow definition of life. All life is not sacred to them. ONly that which gestates. 

Those people have blood of far more on their hands than any abortionist. Those people are murderers far more vile.

Power and abuse

Map of Texas highlighting Aransas County

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I know people who have struggled to have a child, and your heart aches for them, you know what amazing wonderful parents they would be.

Then there is this utter douchebag – a judge beating the hell out of his disabled daughter with a belt – then coming back to do it a second time. With the collusion of the mother. Damn.

He is bitching now that the daughter, who secretly videoed the ongoing abuse, has ’caused trouble for him’. There are no words i can use in public for the depth of my loathing for people like him. Let us just say i lose my normal live and let live approach and turn old testament about it all.

Those who abuse the powerless, especially their own family, are evil, vile monsters. i can sort of understand snapping once (just) and living with the regret of that, trying to be a better person, but this sick b*st*rd really got into this. Sick doesn’t cover it, actually.  And she has a younger sister still living at home, so i can understand her releasing it.

Watching this video breaks my heart. It should break everyone’s heart. And i bet this evil man gets away with it – after all, a Texan judge?

The Internet is blowing up with a video allegedly posted by the daughter of an Aransas County judge that she says shows him beating her.

Someone who says she is the daughter of Judge William Adams posted the 2004 video only recently. The hard-to-take clip shows a man whipping her with a belt because she was downloading music from the net.

“Bend over the fucking bed!!” he screams as he belts her while she tries to squirm away. At another point he threatens to hit her “in your fucking face.”

At another point a woman, who the poster says is her mother, comes in and tells her to bend over “like a 16-year-old and take it.”

via Texas Judge William Adams Allegedly Beating Daughter: Horrifying Video (UPDATED) – Houston News – Hair Balls.

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The vile power of anonymity

I don’t agree with everyone online. I am also strongly opinionated. We will pause for collective gasps of shock. Ok, over that? Good.

Does my disagreement with them give me the right to abuse, stalk, harass them? Obsess over every grotty little detail I can pathetically seek to find, like a creepy stalker?

The fact I think Fred Phelps is creepy dangerous does not give me the right to provide him unsolicited abuse, (unlike his vile practices, that he has, in my occasionally humble opinion, brainwashed his near cult into emulating).

Anonymity (the relative anonymity, at least), that being online bestows on us, seems to remove basic lessons in human social skills. The ability to use good manners. To reflect on potential pain. The fact that the person you spit your vitriol at is actually a fellow human, not a series of electrons after all. There are people who make mistakes, who have other opinions, who are actually still stumbling around through life like the rest of us.

I love the benefits the Internet brings. It can build amazing communities for the lonely, and empower the disenfranchised, educate those with limited access to knowledge. It is a deeply powerful tool. Like all tools, it is two edged and dangerous when wielded by those who have underlying agendas. I am sickened by this descent into abusive hostility when faced with disagreement – the argument of the playground, the kindergarten.

I often wonder if people who behave so badly are role playing out their responses to times of being bullied, or feeling powerless, of adolescent sufferings. For adolescent cruelty is deeply apparent in such responses. The cruelty of thoughtless high school students.

I hope we evolve better mechanisms, and start to enforce better behaviour by our lack of accepting such rudeness and hostility.

I f you can read this tale, (Mom, Don’t Read This – Skepchick), and not feel outraged – no matter how much or little you agree with where the tale started  - then please, examine the basic set of human rules for interaction we should all have been educated with, instantly.

 

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