Everything I learnt about makeup I learnt from the Sims

So I have spent my life being femininely challenged. Only one significant female figure in my childhood (hi Aunty Pam), I was to shy to ask how to do the things every other girl seemed to know – what clothes to choose, how to do makeup. A marvellous single father did his utter amazing best, […]

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September 24th, 2013 by Romana Challans

Monday rolls around exactly unlike a ball.

Youngest female offspring had performance Friday night. At first it looked like we would miss it as tickets were gone within the day,but upon enquiry for cancellations that afternoon, turns out they reserve all wheelchair tickets and don’t mark them as available. So last minute flurry to organize the bloke and I attending. The logistics […]

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September 23rd, 2013 by Romana Challans

The care of keeping love

My Mother, My Daughter – The Rumpus.net. I am weeping for this woman, this magic and wonderful woman who tried so hard, who deserved so much better. I am weeping for the mother who tried so hard to bring what light into her daughter’s life she could, who also deserved better than the hand cruelly dealt. […]

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March 24th, 2013 by Romana Challans

It’s been a while

I don’t know if anyone reads this blog you know. I make such a halfhearted effort to post – yet I am prolific on Google Plus, which becomes prolific on Tumblr and Twitter by default, as one feed morphs into many. If Google releases an API that allowed me, as once I was able to […]

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March 10th, 2013 by Romana Challans

The rules of engagement – sexuality

The 2013 Guidelines for Coming Out. So, Jodie Foster came out. Or didn’t. It seems there is some idea of what coming out should look like, some wording that is necessary to meet a standard. Odd, the notoriously private Ms Foster, who made a speech that included a yearning plea for privacy’s necessity, is chided […]

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January 19th, 2013 by Romana Challans

Productivity in the time of toothache

Toothache (medication plus ten pregnancies = tooth issues) meant an ‘emergency traumatic surgery’ last Friday. I am still healing, and almost on real people food, so that is good. Relieved what was a decidedly vile ordeal was resolved, but missed out on family trip away. Persuaded all to go, and they had a rousing good […]

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January 1st, 2013 by Romana Challans

Another year goes by, Allira

It’s another year since your too early birth, already gone from me, already lost. Your younger sister and brother visited your grave recently. Your sister said “I stayed with my big sister for a whole”, and it took me a moment she didn’t mean hers – and yours, and yours – big sisters that are […]

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December 23rd, 2012 by Romana Challans

Hello body, time to well, not kiss, but definitely make up.

I read this story: “I don’t have the stomach for worrying about my body anymore” and it struck a nerve. I look in the mirror and I am nearly 46. I worry about the extra few kilos I have gained recently – weight maintenance is so much harder when one is disabled and have chronic […]

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December 16th, 2012 by Romana Challans

There are some childhood disappointments you never forget.

It is that clear in my mind, how excited I was for a dose of Star Wars after the breathtaking first movie. Oh, I had such a crush on Harrison Ford. And confusingly, on Carrie Fisher. Life is complex, and I knew it already. I was a scifi nerdette, a proto geek girl, into Asimov […]

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December 13th, 2012 by Romana Challans

Diminshed memories

Let’s Talk About Kasandra Perkins for a Change. The man who abused her and killed her was a sports star, so she gets to be a bit player in her own death – a mere cipher to discuss him. It is not the same as he put her through – but it certainly is analogous. […]

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December 8th, 2012 by Romana Challans